Loneliness seems to be the core of human conflict and
suffering, when you sit alone in the room and it is
increasingly discomfortable, you know what I am
talking about. Interesting is that in the same time
it is this core of loneliness which is a doorway to
freedom and realization. Krishnamurti often was
talking and writing about it, that we try to cover this
basic fact in many ways: relationships, work, hobbies,
eating, other addictions ect. But when you open your
heart for the fact and will not resist it you might
dicover something you never did before. Byron Katie
came up with her famous questions: is this true?
are you absolutely sure that this is true? how do you
react when you belive that thought? who whould you
be without this thought?
When it comes to loneliness she observed that you
feel lonely only if you travel in your mind somewhere
else and notice that this person is not here, but if you
are present here and now, just like Jiddu was saying
about looking at the fact, than you discover that loneliness
is also mind made. Funny part is that if you carefuly
watch your mind it will sometimes resist being with
people too and when you are alone you might seek the
company, so in the end it is really resistance to the
now, whatever the form it takes. 'The Work' of Byron
Katie might look a bit too mental at the first side,
but actually link between feeling and thinking is very
close and just as many buddhist scholars teach it is
purification of the mind which matters, for thought
and feeling like to dance together. Of course feeling is
more important and you might sometimes think in
order to avoid some uncomfortable feeling, that's
why in the east breath is highly recomended by
many masters. On the other hand often you might
not be aware what kind of thoughts create the feeling.
And here 'the work' of Katie is brilliant. So, if you are
courious and want to heal your loneliness, you can
try few questions of Byron Katie.
www.thework.com
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